New to SpeakingOut’s Team

Reverend Bruce Farrant (Director / Board of Directors)

Message from Bruce…

“When a child is sexually violated, it contributes to the destruction of their self-image, which can only gently be restored through love, hope & healing.”

Importance of Knowing More about the Crime of Child Sexual Abuse…

The more we know about this crime & ultimate violation/betrayal of children, the better for children.  Let’s start here.  Click on the below link for information on…

  • What Child Sexual Abuse Is
  • Overview of Child Sexual Abuse
  • Forms of Child Sexual Abuse
  • Additional Information
  • What Child Sexual Abuse Is NOT
  • Our Definition of a Child
  • Who is in Authority over a Child

Break the Cycle of Child Sexual Abuse in YOUR Family

SpeakingOut against Child Sexual Abuse Blog

About “Family Secrets”…

  • It is our responsibility as Adults to Stop the abuse of Children within our own families
  • Denial helps no one; especially the Child
  • Family Secrets hurt Children; the most innocent of family members
  • To Protect oneloved one with a secret such as this = the harming of an Innocent Child or
    Children (possibly your own child or a child you know… horrible violation of any child)
  • If you are aware of and/or suspect abuse & don’t act, you become an Accomplice
  • Child Sexual Abuse is not a family matter… IT IS A CRIME!
  • Generational Issue/Crime can Stop with you
  • Your embarrassment is not as important as your Child’s Safety
  • It’s Not About You; it’s about your Child or Grandchild
  • You Must Step Up & Speak Out
  • Have the Courage to break the cycle in your family

Understand that what you may…

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Child Sexual Abuse…Why Most Children Don’t Tell

Fear (Being Threatened & Manipulated)

Love and/or Know the Person Abusing Them (Don’t want their “loved one” to get into trouble; Want their Acceptance/Approval)




Lack of Understanding


Blame Themselves

Have been taught to respect Adults (Authority Figures)

Thinks/Feels like everyone knows (That people can tell just from looking at them)

Don’t want to Upset a Loved One

To protect a loved one or pet from Abuse or Harm (i.e. Mom, Brother, Sister, Dog, etc…)

Don’t Think Anyone will Believe Them (That’s what they are being told)

Fear of what a Loved One might do to the Abuser

Feel it is a Private Matter that should not be talked about

Think maybe its Normal; Happens to all Children

Knows its Abnormal; Feel Very Alone; Thinks a Highly Unusual Thing

They told someone once & was either not believed and/or not protected



For many children who do tell, they are either not believed and/or not protected.  Unfortunately, this in turn has the potential to shut down a
child about their abuse for a long time, if not permanently.  Why would that child ever tell again?  Something to think about Adults!


What Does Child Sexual Abuse Have to do with YOU?

SpeakingOut against Child Sexual Abuse Blog

Rape / Incest / Molestation / Exploitation…of CHILDREN

We all know this happens every single day all around us.  Statistics show that 1 out of every 3 girls & 1 out of every 5 boys will be sexually violated in some way before they turn 18 years of age.

And yet, the majority of adults walk around with blinders on pretending this horrific violation against innocent children is not happening…because it’s too difficult to think about.

Question is…if we as adults cannot stand to talk about or think about this ultimate violation & crime against children…then what are the children supposed to do?  If it’s uncomfortable for adults to just know about it, how do you think the children feel?  They’re the ones being violated.  Who’s going to help them?  Who’s going to be their voice as they are silenced by the perpetrator?  Are we just going to continue to leave children on their own to try to stop their own…

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